tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1033053481211956070.post4864286526260698290..comments2023-10-07T06:24:34.721-07:00Comments on Green Beans and Little Things: Color.Leifhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17608452667843477916noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1033053481211956070.post-74743945301941918722011-02-28T14:09:52.661-08:002011-02-28T14:09:52.661-08:00What a beautiful post margaret. I am currently gr...What a beautiful post margaret. I am currently grappling with when's the appropriate time to talk about color, because like you, I believe it's naive to think "color blindness" doesn't exist, or is necessarily a bad thing. <br /><br />I've absent from babycenter with all the hooplas of wedding nouveau, the first ever wedding style guide dedicated to interracial couples. I'm happy to say that we're launching our mag soon, and insights as candid as yours are exactly the sort of inspiration that readers should be privy too.<br /><br />Cheers, photography and love.<br /><br />Fri Forjindam<br />Founder, Editor - Wedding NouveauFri @ Wedding Nouveauhttp://weddingnouveau.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1033053481211956070.post-42241236879411325302011-02-24T12:53:51.983-08:002011-02-24T12:53:51.983-08:00I like this post. very thought provoking.I like this post. very thought provoking.Theodora Ofosuhimahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03459901216965225700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1033053481211956070.post-67592088247010181852011-02-03T18:03:19.969-08:002011-02-03T18:03:19.969-08:00great post! i liked reading it, hated hearing abo...great post! i liked reading it, hated hearing about the guy in the car. i am sorry there are people like that out there. i realize i don't know exactly where you are coming from (white girl white baby white husband). but i hope you are successful teaching your children to be proud of who they are and their background, as everyone should be.<br /><br />ps they are gorgeous!mimihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17626192244211099915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1033053481211956070.post-40006769234812686882011-01-17T05:50:32.059-08:002011-01-17T05:50:32.059-08:00This is the one subject I'm worried about when...This is the one subject I'm worried about when I talk to my future children. My background is different than yours, and my experiences made me cognizant of race and culture (being from the south, you have no choice). On one hand, I want to verbalize the reality of society and how they will be viwed; on the other hand, I don't want to embed a negative ideology of race relations (mostly because they will be from an interracial couple) when I speak to them about imperative subjects such as the African Diaspora, the Civil Rights Movement, etc.<br /><br />No matter what I will teach them, I know I will teach them about their history and culture from both sides of their family, and that ultimately, the human race is one entity, no matter what others say.Beautifully.Conjured.Uphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07406790625325877853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1033053481211956070.post-40395116162205454662011-01-15T18:51:19.882-08:002011-01-15T18:51:19.882-08:00I am also sorry about what you experienced. I hone...I am also sorry about what you experienced. I honestly believe no one understands it until they go through it. This was the way I felt about my own husband. Then one day a man had no clue we were together and made a racial slur against me and my boys and my husband was so upset. While I hated it happened. I was glad for him to finally witness just a small bit of what it is like.Samariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02181464862188284228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1033053481211956070.post-46111309370903191032011-01-15T18:48:28.278-08:002011-01-15T18:48:28.278-08:00While I have not taken the color blind approach(an...While I have not taken the color blind approach(and think its silly too) I never talked about race with my son. But as he has done everything else he brought it up to me. We talk openly and honest about it.Samariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02181464862188284228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1033053481211956070.post-24012720503330488672011-01-13T23:34:51.373-08:002011-01-13T23:34:51.373-08:00Big hugs to you Margaret. I'm not really sure ...Big hugs to you Margaret. I'm not really sure what to say, but people are freaking idiots. Honestly, I'm so sick of talking about race, but even when I want to forget, someone will remind me in, no uncertain terms, that I am black. Don't get me wrong, I love being me, but there is so much more to me that just my race. <br /><br />As for some of your friends, it sucks but they can't emphasize. It's like a male telling you what it feels like to be a guy. Regardless of how much you want to understand and emphasize, you will never be able to truly be able grasp it. Your white friends don't have to think about color or race, minorities have no choice in the matter. We are told daily we are black by little looks, snide comments, stereotypical remarks, or parking in another spot. Most of it is very subtle, but it's obvious when it happens. It's not being overly sensitive, but very observant. You're not looking for things, but you aren't blind either. So I'm sure your friends weren't trying to be uncaring, it's just really, really hard for them to even try to relate.<br /><br />Now for a little levity....<br /> When my daughter was 4 years old, she made the same comments your daugther made. My husand wanted to take it a step further, so he started to ask her more question. It went like this:<br /><br />dad: what color is my skin?<br />dd: Beige.<br />dad: What color is my hair?<br />dd: Brown<br />dad: What color are my eye?<br />dd: green<br />dad: What color are my teeth?<br />dd: (she hesitated for a moment and without cracking a smile said......)<br />YELLOW!!!<br /><br />LOL!! We still laugh until our bellyaches everytime we recount that story.<br /><br />Not making light of your situation, but I'm sure that this wasn't the first time you experienced subtle racism and it won't be the last. Find humor is others stupidity. <br />ps...Chili's does suck!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1033053481211956070.post-35765985021413689142011-01-13T21:01:49.305-08:002011-01-13T21:01:49.305-08:00Hi Miss Margaret-
This is my first ever comment to...Hi Miss Margaret-<br />This is my first ever comment to you but I am an avid follower. I love your beautiful family and special hearts. <br /><br />My best friend also shares a bi-racial family and I too have seen her struggle with the shallow ignorance that yes...still exists in our culture. She too did not teach her children color differences and I think that you are exactly right...there is no color division...we are humans...with souls...hearts...and love. That is all that matters.<br /><br />I just wanted to send you warm thoughts and love after an experience such as what you have had. We all want everyone to share our love and respect for each other...unfortunately some haven't learned how. Do not let their ignorance hurt your heart...easier said than done I know... but rest assured that as long as you handle those situations with dignity and grace...your children will learn strength from your strength...and God will take care of the rest.<br /><br />Sending love your way from Texas♥Tiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18153102644034729629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1033053481211956070.post-19474047896763531292011-01-13T19:23:46.330-08:002011-01-13T19:23:46.330-08:00I agree that teaching children to be "color b...I agree that teaching children to be "color blind" is in essence teaching them to ignore the fact that it's not color we're trying to blind, but the painful past of ignorance. If we just accepted that there was no black, white, brown, yellow, etc. then there would be no need for "color blindness". It's not like we walk around "teaching" our children that blue eyes and dimples are really mutations, but to not treat those with blue eyes and dimples differently, they're really not mutants. There is not black, white, brown, yellow, etc. there are just people, who's wonderful and smart bodies tailored their genes to help them survive native climates. I am sick of every "race" creating this barrier from one another like it's something that still needs protecting. It's not race that needs to be protected or even celebrated, it is the culture. There is a huge difference. You and your family are worthy. Just like anyone else's family is worthy. Worthy of love, and worthy of respect. All of which I extend to you. All the way from Miami.Olihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15774981282185079391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1033053481211956070.post-87657625574173446312011-01-13T18:50:39.942-08:002011-01-13T18:50:39.942-08:00Wow...well said. I am sorry that you had to go thr...Wow...well said. I am sorry that you had to go through that. My husband and I don't have children yet but like most ppl in interracial relationships that fear of how one's children will be treated is there. I really don't like when people make comments like that either (like "you're too sensitive"). I usually tell them that they are being insensitive for trying to make excuses and not trying to empathize.Mrs. Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10379949037095569199noreply@blogger.com