Sunday, August 30, 2009

Our family.

Leif and I came to an interesting decision the other day. We decided that after this baby we would like to be done having our own children. Partly because I will have to continue to have c-sections, and mostly because our hearts are so set on adoption and foster care.

I always imagined myself with lots of children but I knew that those children would both be mine naturally and adopted. I think Leif and I both have hearts for foster care and adoption because of the part it plays in both of our families. One of the first things we talked about was foster care and adoption. Its not something we've thought about, its something that's going to be done.

Some people don't understand why this is something that's important to us, and thats okay. A few people have said, we just need to have our own children, we're too young to decide things like this. I'd like to know whats the exact age I can decide these things:) If God is calling us to do this, then that's what we're going to do. He has defiantly called us to do this.

I've been following this blog Adoptive Momma of Two, and I love it so much. Its a different view of adoption that I've never known. From the parents view. The first time I read through her blog I cried because I felt like I could understand my parents in a whole different way. Then I read this poem on her blog:

I didn't give you the gift of life,
But in my heart I know.
The love I feel is deep and real,
As if it had been so.

For us to have each other
Is like a dream come true!
No, I didn't give you
The gift of life,
Life gave me the gift of you.

How perfect. Her blog is full of so much wisdom for parents looking into adoption. I read it any chance I can get. Any way Leif and I decide to build our family, each child will be ours. Naturally or not.

8 comments:

Chase said...

this is beautiful.
I think you two are making a great decision and I fully support you both.

timewilltell said...

So very lovely. I'm so glad that this is on your heart. It has always been on mine, even though I don't want children. I've always said that if something (God, I suppose) possessed me to want children, I'd adopt. I just love the whole idea... Can't really explain it; at least not now. :) Anyway, I'm very happy for the both of you and am excited to see what God does through you as you embark on this particular ministry.

xo
m

Moorea Seal said...

Ah, you guys. I think you are incredible. I admire you so much. So many people our age just talk about the future and force their ideas into "years in the future" categories. You guys are just honest, forward, and you actually pursue what you pray about. Most people don't do that. They pray, sort off, and then they put it off. I am so proud of you for just actually owning your lives. No, more than that. I admire you so deeply for just being honest in your pursuit of God, and for being strong enough, courageous enough, and excited enough about God, the unknown, and the control that He has of your lives, to LIVE truly and faithfully. You guys really are encouraging and inspiring. When I am fearful above the idea of loving again, you guys give me a lot of hope that perhaps I can one day be blessed enough to meet someone who shares my love of God, my excitement to really pursue what God puts in my life, and all that jazz, the good and the bad. Thank you for being so true to each other, to God, to your babies and future babies to come. I am so excited for your future. and more than that, I am excited about your present and your past. I see God in all of it. And it makes me so happy.

Mrs. G.I. Joe said...

I think that is awesome! Don't listen to people who say you shouldn't do that. Not everyone is meant to have as many babies "of their own" as is physically possible. You guys should do what's right for your family and adoption is a beautiful gift. Just because you didn't birth a baby doesn't mean you still can't give them the gift of a wonderful life. :)

Milk and Honey Mommy said...

Margaret,

It is wonderful that you and Leif are following the call of God regarding adoption. I have had the opportunity to meet a few families who have opted to have biological children as well as adopt and their families have blossomed. My youngest sister is adopted and our parents didn't hide that fact, but also it wasn't daily conversation for distinction. So their daughter is their daughter and my sister is my sister. I can't imagine our lives w/o her.

No discount to biological children, but I remember watching an old movie w/a child feeling unwanted compared to a birth child. The child was adopted and told he was special because he was chosen by the parents. Children are blessings and I pray for God's guidance as the two of you continue to grow your family.

stacy di said...

there are so many children out there who need homes. I think you've made a really important decision...and most importantly, it's a decision that works best for YOUR family.

Anna said...

Thank you for mentioning me. It touches my heart to learn you have received so much from reading my little blog. I started my blog to educate others about adoption...I guess I've succeeded. Thank you.

Adoptive Momma of Two

ddbug said...

I fully support your decision to adopt. What big hearts you have!!! I was adopted at birth and love my family so much for doing it. Good Luck with everything...and big hugs.