Friday, February 12, 2010
Please & Thank You.
My child knows a few words. Words like: mama, daddy, bye bye, hi, backpack, bellybutton, puppy, baby, milk. She'll repeat words if you repeat them to her a few times. Unless those words are please and thank you. I'm constantly trying to get Riley to say "please" and "thank you" but she doesn't. I've heard her say "thank you" one time when we were at my parents and I was so excited! I'm not sure what the average vocabulary is for a 14 month old, but according to all these other mothers my child should be saying "please" & "thank you" or at least signing it.
Yesterday at the park I mentioned to a mom that I couldn't get Riley to say it. She proceeded to tell me that her daughter always says "thank you". That made me feel wonderful:) Granted, her daughter is two months older than Riley, so maybe when Riley is 16 months old she'll finally catch on? I can't help but feel like I've failed in some way because my daughter doesn't know how to be polite. When we were in Oregon, I remember being in the kitchen and watching my mother in law try to get Riley to say please. I was slightly embarrassed because I felt like her not being able to say "please" or "thank you" was a reflection on our parenting.
Honestly, its not a big deal that Riley doesn't say "please" and "thank you". It really isn't. But for some reason it bothers me. I think because as parents, we can be so judgmental of each other, and no one likes to be the parent that's under criticism. I have no problem with people passing judgment on the fact that I fed my child formula, or I let her cry it out when she was 5 months old so she'd sleep through the night. It does bother me though when people don't think that Leif & I are teaching Riley how to have good manners and be polite. I'm not sure people really think this, but I still worry about it from time to time. :)